Entering 3rd trimester….finally :D
Posted in Milestones, Pregnancy on Dec 7th, 2009
This is probably the last post before I call out a long BLOG BREAK until I deliver. Or there may be post with more photos & videos but less words. I know there seems to be still a long way to go ….about 1 & 1/2 months at least but these 2 months being the year-end are critical months for me at work (wrapping up figures as the calendar ends, handover, training my temp replacement, preparation for office relocation & etc) …and boy….not until the arrival of this month that I notice how things can be out of control. But thankfully my replacement came in early this month & he’s quite helpful in clearing up many areas of back-logs as well as helping up ahead with some anticipated tasks during my absence.
I’ve been brainwashing myself to finish up this post before the new addition comes to life. I felt extremely guilty for this LONG-POSTPONED post about my pregnancy update…what a big boo-hoo !! Life has been tremendously busy the past quarter with memorable events that needed an update here:
The boys’ year-end results
The boys’ sport day & achievements
The boys’ 7th birthday party
The boys’ Speech & Drama year-end production
Year-end School Holiday and many more …….
Unfortunately, between blogging in front of the PC & lazying around the sofa in front of the TV with snacks during weekend, i always ended up choosing the latter.
Arghhh….anyway those pending posts can wait but I didn’t wana post my pregnancy update after the arrival of the little fella, LOL !!
Actually I had wanted to do an update when I was around 4mths (sorry i don’t count the weeks ~ coz i’m lazy) i.e. the approximate gestational age I received the news of the bb’s gender. But thank god I didn’t, as I knew how unstable my state of mind was then, knowing that it’s another boy on the way. YES, you heard me right. Both the ob-gyn & huby claimed that they saw the birdie during the scan but I didn’t….so I protested against their claim deep beneath myself. Both the 2 kor-kor were present during the scan & they were happy for another di-di surprisingly!!
I even told myself that it could be a mistake & chose to wait till another month to confirm the fact. Though I do not concur to the findings then, I had a feeling that I would lose the battle. And so my disappointment could not be contained after the visit. Huby understand my feeling so much coz he knew how badly I long for a girl. It took me 7 years to consider doing it all over again just wanting to fulfil this wish. When it was done with an objective, it’s only normal to expect disappointment when the objective was not met….coz I’m only a human & I beg for forgiveness on what happened on that fateful day!!
I promised this is going to be my last rant….but note it was also my first 
My eyes actually went teary (despite trying so hard to contain it), that I turned my face away from huby in the car during the entire journey home. He kept checking my reaction & remained quiet but occasionally pats on my thigh & wanted to hold my hands. Soon after I managed to control myself, I burst out….i hurled a lot of negative, nasty & sarcastic words to huby as a way to venge my disappointment. I even pushed the blame to him, so bad….Being a lot wiser than I am, he bears with me for the first 15 mins. During the outburst & the consolation session, even Scot sensed my disappointment as he stroked my cheek….an act of imitating dady actually. And when I didn’t stop my nonsense despite a lot of reasoning by huby, he finally got so angry & mad at me. He turned around giving me a hard cold lecture …. which eventually put the flame on me to rest. How could I be so upset when i was so so happy with the news of this pregnancy? And it was so unfair to ‘blame’ as it was both our mutual consensus on giving this another try. Yet it was partly our own mistake for the none-adherence to the so-called gender treatment after failing for the first 3 months.
Anyway, it didn’t took me long to put those unpleasant feelings & thoughts behind me…time heals, yes! I began to accept the fact when ob-gyn confirmed the gender again in the next visit & from then onwards, I never asked about the gender anymore.
Besides myself, the 2nd person that was equally disappointed with the news was mom. Mom has been telling how worry she was that I have to do a natural birth for the first time at my current age (had cesarean the last time) …boy… she said I was very old for a first timer as she anticipates the risks involve. And when the supposing good news that she has been expecting did not turned out to be one, she was tremendously disappointed….i could vividly remembered her reaction, LOL.
Mom said she even dreamt of babysitting my “fei mui chai” / fat little girl….awwww, how sad ehh?? But then, very soon mom changed her thoughts & poured us some comforting words:
“ Aiya…so long as the baby is healthy, it’s good enough…..3 heng-dai tar tin har next time is also good ” something like that, hahaha
Of course I reckon how significant it is to have good health. Lately I’ve been reading & hearing a lot about those unfortunate ones…..
mother who didn’t made it during birth, ppl who tried so hard just to get baby, ppl who couldn’t even carry the baby to full term, ppl who has bb with special needs & etc etc. Safe to say, all I’m praying now is to have a little healthy boy 
I love baby (but not all kids lar…baby & kids different wan) so i know it will take me no time to love this baby of mine the moment i have him on my arm!! Now i can’t wait to hold an infant… 
p/s: wana say sorry to bb & hubs
This pregnancy didn’t gave much of a hiccup to me. I’ve gained my first 10kg when I almost reached 7 months. God knows how much more I would be piling on towards the end of the 3rd trimester given my good appetite.
I had been told that the baby was a tad big in size i.e. he weighs about 1.4kg at 28weeks when the expected max weight should only be around 1.2kg but I had friends that said it’s not considered big…..i don’t know who to believe. Anyway, I was getting huge mainly due to the unsuccessful weight shed after my past delivery. That was what making me hates pregnancy, i was clumsy & felt ugly all the time….i just don’t seemed to enjoy my pregnancy…thou I know this would definitely be my last. And the break-out on my face that was not slowing down added on to bother me. I don’t mind those small red dots appearing all over my face now but I would be grateful if I would be spared of those big & red acne that attacked me during my past pregnancy….am praying hard! So apart from the licence to eat, I don’t enjoy any of my pregnancy. All I wanted now is to get it done & over with & to be able to hip, jump & hop actively as before.
By 3rd week of Dec-09, I’ll be around 32 weeks. And once I’m done with my Jan’2010 month-end closing at work, I’m ready to go off.
Due to the intolerable weight gain at barely 7 months, I started to have back pain if I walk too much. Hence, I started to do a lot of online shopping for baby stuffs. Thanks for the blogs that I visited, I was recommended to many excellent & reliable online stores. Parcels had been coming in to my office very often that my colleagues also noticed I bought a lot of stuffs……hahaha
Mostly were cloth diapers. I got a shock at the end of my shopping that i ended up having a total of 15 diapers as a start, hahaha!
I will be doing a separate post just to record down the details of each diaper with the cost & brand …. just in case it can fetch a 2nd value when i’m done using them later, LOL !!
Apart from diaper, i also got myself some dry shampoo, ginger shower gel, nipple cream & bottom spray online. Then some jumper suits, body suits, nursing bra, disposable panties, disposable bra pads from mothercare & isetan during their recent sale.
Also I had been passing my shopping list to my younger sister whenever she has flight overseas esp. UK. Check out what i’ve got my sis to purchase:
Avent single electric breast pump kit (as i plan to breastfeed exclusively this time…hopefully with success)
Avent BPA bottles & storage cups
Avent extra teats & pacifier….btw, i didn’t asked her to buy so many but she said buy 1 free 1 wor….so the little boy can suck for such a long time, LOL !!
Btw, learning to use all these gadgets again is such a challenge to me. So i had to read all the manuals ahead & check out how the 2 busy body kor-kor were with my new tools
Coincidently, a colleague & my boss who came up from Spore to visit presented me with a gift that surprises me a lot making my Avent essentials nearly complete…it was a bottle warmer, i was so happy! The only thing outstanding now it the steriliser.
My sis who happened to be a shopaholic also got me lots of cute-cute baby suit which was extremely cheap. She got me 2 packs of the 7pcs boys’ body suit below.
Guess what, each pack only cost 4 pound….how to resist?? And comparing to the pack that i got from mothercare was about RM100 less 10-20% discount though i must agree that mothercare’s quality was a little better lar !!
I even cleared half of the below cabinet that used to house the boys’ toys to make way for the baby stuffs
Here’s wishing everyone a blessing & blasting year-end.
Till then, I shall catch up again with you guys
Wow.. U really been “Away” for very long.. year end is really really a busy quarter for everyone huh. 1.5mths seems near yet far… I totally get what u mean and how u feel at this stage of pregnancy….
So I guess if bb arrive on time, bb should be a month old before CNY right?
I have a fren delivering in mid jan as well.. I am always excited when thre’s another bb coming to town!!
i remembered when i found out i was preggy with #2 when my 1st born was 5mths old. i cried cos it was not planned and felt really bad for bout a month but then think bout it now .. i have no regrets .. looking on the bright side .. at least they grow up at the same time .. i dun haf to suffer. i love babies .. sometimes i would think wouldn’t it be great to have another one but i dun think i haf that kinda energy anymore. getting old oredi
yea i know wat u mean by backache .. really suffering man. get more rest and lift up ur feet when necessary. dun stand too much. u haf a good delivery and hope to see the post of the lil one.
I’ve suspected that it’s a bb boy when I saw your comment in one of the photos of the boys’ birthday, but I thot maybe I was wrong. Anyway, like you said, a healthy bb is more important than anything else.
BTW, u will still work after delivering bb right? Avent is good, but last time, I double pump at work to save time, considering that I need to pump 3 times during 9 - 6. So, maybe you can consider an electric pump on top of Avent too.
jac: yes amy, i will continue to work & i’ve gotten the Avent electric pump ma…not double lar
heh …. u had prepared so many baby things … so many cloths diapers ya ….
Well, sometime is ok to cry and burst out when we r disappointed, we r human mah …. when come to think about those unfortunate mummies who cant have baby .. we feel very much better and graceful …. once u have baby on ur arm again …. just like me … u forget everything la … u just love to cuddle and kiss them all over again …. oooooo ….. i love baby too …. just like u , but not kids .. hahahahha …. (oppsss)
i can understand your dissapointment. But like your mum said, more important is health and also harmony in the family. keep thinking positive & beautiful thoughts ok. So many baby stuff - I suppose u gave away the earlier stuff u had for the kokos?
Keep positive..you will have a cute n healthy baby…
Take care n keep me update yar…
lu siao ah! at least u came to ur senses already, ok la, i wont be angry at u la!
jacs, as what u said, really some tried very hard oso no telur, and those unfortunate babies.. u have 3 boys + 3 DIL.. so it means u will have 3 daughters next time.
cheer up. hope all these gifts will make u feel better.. i cant wait to go see ur new baby… invite me ok..
take care and nest well now.
u r all prepared.. good!
whether boy or gal..as long baby healthy ok lor. although i know u really really wish for gal….
so u r going to try for natural birth? so before that, must do exercise lor..like walking, squatting a lot..so make it easier ma… cant wait.. by the time ur next post come, i can see baby photo already right
all the best ya. take care & hugs
I can feel ur disappointment. But glad that’s in the past edi. U’re right, if u’d posted something at that point of time, I’m sure the tone wud be different. Wat’s important is ur state of mind now. Getting ready to welcome ur lil bundle of joy, which comes with a birdie. hehehe Wow… look at wat u’ve prepared for him. So many fancy CDs.
It’s def a bz bz time for u, from now till bb’s arrival. Do get as much rest as possible, whenever u can. Will c u soon ya.
wow wow wow..all so well prepare. I can feel the excitement.
Agree with what Wen said, next time you will have three daughters (DILs).
So now enjoy more eating, rest a lot and take good care of yourself before the lil one arrive.
ahhh..looks like you are all set
3 sons are good…3 musketeers 
Cheer up my dear, both of you proof that your ‘product’ will be very high quality (just look your twins), so just another ‘leng chai’ on the way
I am truly happy for you. Wish you a smooth delivery!
Wow… you are so much well prepared then me. I have about 6 more weeks to go, I haven’t even get the baby cloths ready.
Don’t worry so much about the gender…. I would be feeling what you were feeling if mine’s a boy. But the most important is healthy and normal baby.
Like what you have written, recently I have also read and heard about a lot of news about babies and mothers that didn’t make it. So just pray for smooth delivery and a healthy baby. That’s the most important
i m with u.
i hated my twin pregnancy too, and there were lots of hatred involve. totally had no feeling towards them when the nurse brought my newborns to my face. I din even wanna nurse them or take care of them until the 2nd day..poor babies..
Wow…you really have been shopping LOL 15 diapers as a start??? Scary!
Lucas played with the AVENT pump the same way your boy did also (rolls eyes). He thought it was a toy gun.
Have a good hand-over at work and then, a good rest ok? Since the No. 2 (or is it No.3 for you?) may come early, I think you’re all prepared for this
We’ll be waiting for your update
Hi Jac, thank you very much for participating in Mummy’s Reviews’ Cloth Diaper Giveaway.
I used to long for a baby girl, then when I had a boy, I thought boys are so much easier to look after — can be a bit more rough with him, not so worried about his security in future. Baby’s health is the most important. May you have a safe delivery.
Cheers,
Mummy to Baby V
MummysReviews.com
I can understand your disappointment, i had such a silly thought too when i had Eli, but i dare not to admit that i hate having boy again. Of course, when i saw the newborn, my fondness towards a baby boy was all back again, and now i love Eli to bits!
Like you said, healthy baby is much more important than its gender.
DO enjoy your last trimester..
i know how you feel. I felt the same way too on my 2nd pregnancy (but not so dramatic though).
I consoled myself then that at least you have boys hoh, can go and “chau sui” other people’s dotters, your own dotter, you have to worry a lot when being “chau sui” by other’s boys…. ;P
ok la, i dun talk “foong leong wah..”… enjoy the rest of the gestation. And wishing you a safe delivery. Merry Xmas and Happy new year!
Luckily not another set of twin boys
Oh well, as long as baby is healthy and safe in your hands…
hope you have a smooth delivery…
Don’t worry, I’m sure when bb comes, you’ll love him endlessly. Things will fall in place and you’ll manage with confidence. Wishing you a safe and speedy delivery wor.
Have been a while didn’t come to your blog. Boy or girl as long as the baby is safe and healthy is more important. In case you do not have any update before your delivery, wish you have a smooth delivery ya. Take care.
I know how u feel, I got 2 boys & wud love to have girl-girl as no. 3. But I also got a few friends who have been trying years, it’s heartbreaking - the things that they have to go thru…so we are all blessed that we have…& soon u’ll be triple blessed!!!!:)
Aiyo.. you actually cried becos of the gender? You must really wanted a girl.
Anyway.. I guess many people would have told you this.. just be happy and glad that baby is healthy, the rest not important la.
Btw, how old are you now? I gave birth to my first very old ler.. no problem also (although long labour), so I bet you are younger and shouldn’t have problem.
Guess I was the last to read this post!
Boy or girl, as long as he/she is healthy is most important.
Like you, I was very disappointed when I got the news on my bb’s gender
coz I was yearning for another boy so Darrius has a didi to play with.
Then again, I don’t wish to go through pregnancy again (my horrible MS)
and since God granted me a girl instead… I should be happy and accept it so I
can just ‘tutup kedai’.
I think you ‘yeng-sai’ lar buying all the stuff even b4 you are reaching 9th month.
I did not get to finish my shopping list and my Glenn came out…. hehehehe
I only bought 2 suits for her to start off with!!!! The rest are all hand-me-down
from all over!
I wish you have a smooth pregnancy till you deliver… and enjoy all the makan session while it last!!!!
Merry Christmas and Happy 2010!!!!